Relationship Power

Natural Aphrodisiacs - Do They Work?

Researchers at the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada, have done extensive review of dozens of studies investigating aphrodisiac powers. According to the results, reported in Live Science (livescience.com), substances with the most potential were Korean (red) ginseng and saffron.

Ginseng likely works in much the same way as does Viagra. Most probably, it relaxes muscles and improves blood flow to the genital region.

In addition, in animal studies, ginger, garlic, cloves, and nutmeg proved to be at least moderately effective. Aphrodisiacs are substances that increase sexual desire, or libido, and -- possibly -- enhance sexual pleasure.

Prior to trying exotic substances, a better option is to improve your health. A 2007 report in the American Journal of Medicine disclosed that erectile dysfunction is highly correlated with poor physical health and inactivity. Hence, healthy diet and exercise are advocated. The side effects of exercise and diet include better self-confidence, which just might be the best aphrodisiac around!

Sexuality: The Power of Fantasy to Increase Sexual Desire

ScienceDaily -- Scientists of the Department of Personality, Evaluation and Psychological Treatment of the University of Granada have released a new study.  Researcher Juan Carlos Sierra Freire studied how some psychological variables such as
    * positive attitude towards sexuality             
    * sexual fantasies           
    * anxiety
are related to sexual desire in human beings.   

The Study

Using the Sexual Desire Inventory, 608 subjects aged 13 to 43 were studied.  Researchers found that 32% of inhibited sexual desire in men was associated with a negative attitude toward sexuality, as well as some sexual fantasies. Eighteen percent of such inhibited sexual desire in women was due to increased anxiety and decreased sexual fantasizing. According to researchers, these figures show that psychological factors, which have a role in sexual response, depend on gender. 

The Power of Imagination

The results of this research reveal

What to Do ... When You Feel No Desire

Sexual desire is a magical, enjoyable and -- sometimes -- elusive experience.  If lately you have found yourself feeling as though your passion for sex -- or your partner -- is dimming, here are some VERY IMPORTANT things for you to begin to do ... at once!

First of all, get a thorough check up from your physician.  Make certain that you are not experiencing some other health problem that is masquerading as low sexual desire.  Discuss with your doctor any concerns you may have.

Once your physical doctor gives you a clean bill of health, turn your attention to the emotional you -- examine your emotions.  Have you been having emotional reactions and keeping them stuffed inside?  Doing so can be blunting your sexual desire.  It's time to

1. get clear with yourself about what you are feeling;
2. put thought into the best way to communicate your emotions; and
3. come clean and be honest with your partner.

Also, remember to pay careful attention to the mental you -- your thoughts.  Have you -- subtly -- been telling yourself negative messages where your sexuality is concerned?  Remember "self-fulfilling prophecy"?  Be aware:  If you have been feeding yourself negative ideas about your sexual satisfaction, these ideas can be manifesting in low sexual desire.  In order to move OUT of the experience of low sexual desire, it is vitally important that you CHANGE these ideas to affirmative, positive ideas that encourage you to enjoy strong sexual desire once again!